for nikki

so my blog is in response to nikki's. my life is lame right now so i'll use my blog to respond to your situation. that's totally understandable that you are what some may call a 'relationship-phobe.' i think that we are influence a lot by our experiences growing up, and while you had friend's parents to fill in where yours were lacking, you were definitely exposed to an unhealthy relationship. no one wants to end up in a bad relationship or get divorced, so naturally we all try to stear away from something when it gives us an uncomfortable feeling. i'm glad that you realize that we can't change people; a lot of us (myself included) stay with people and think that they can change the things we don't like about the other person. i was with willie for over 3 years and i always told myself that the things that bugged me about our relationship would change. well, that's not fair to either person. you can't change people and you shouldn't anyway. why should i change for anyone or vice-versa? so i get the part about ending it when you realize there are things you don't like about the other person. on the other hand, that's how we grow. if i wasn't around someone who did things that bugged me or that i wasn't sure about i would be pretty sheltered. the thing that i really didn't like about willie was all the time i wasted waiting for him. he was always late. well, i hated that, but it really made me stop and smell the flowers now and again, because i am anally on time for everything. well i guess that's not a good example since we broke up, but i guess i'm trying to say that you have to give people a chance even if there's stuff you don't like about them; it can be good for both of you and you may realize that the things you do like about them outway the things you don't like about them. another thing to keep in mind: we all have a certain taste in guys/girls. we are generally attracted to the same types of people. well, isn't that kind of funny since those relationships didn't work out in the past? it can't hurt to be open people that you didn't expect to be attracted to. you never know i guess.